Men might not be complicated in the same way that women are, but they’re still difficult to understand. And if you want to have a healthier relationship with your man, it’s imperative that you put in the work to understand him just a little better. As a result, you’ll enjoy more stability, fewer fights, and better romance. 

Here are a few tips to help you hack the male brain:

You cannot pressure a man into making a commitment. And if you try, you’ll end up pushing him away. 

Most men know what they want. They rarely shift from one end of the spectrum to the other. They know precisely where they stand and won’t appreciate being pressured into another direction. Be patient and wait for him to commit to something.

Women want to be loved. Men want to be respected. Understanding this simple truth will revolutionize the way you approach your relationships.

Anything you can do to make your man feel respected is going to benefit the relationship. On the contrary, anything you do to disrespect him will push him away. Love is important, but it’s usually secondary to respect.

Men are problem solvers. While some men are comfortable airing out their feelings and talking through emotions, it’s not typical. Most would prefer to do something about the issue – they want to take action. 

The best thing you can do for a man is create space so that he can take action. You certainly can (and should) talk through issues, but don’t assume that he’s going to feel better after. Tell him precisely what you need/want and give him a chance to take action.

As strange as it may sound, studying the astrology sign of your significant other can help you tap into what he’s thinking, how he processes information, etc.

Take Taurus men, for example. If you’re dating a Taurus and you’ve never explored this side of him, you’re missing a key piece of what it means to understand him.

As relationship astrologer Anna Kovach writes, “Taurus men can be very confusing and frustrating when you don’t know how to truly read them and speak their language. And they won’t just tell you honestly how they feel – quite the opposite – they’ll get cold before suddenly revealing their dark sides.”

And that’s just for Taurus guys. If you’re dating a Pisces or Aries, it’s a different story. Get to know what makes your man tick by familiarizing yourself with the deeper emotional layers that hide beneath the surface.

The male brain works best when it’s focused on one specific task. In this sense, men prefer simplicity. If they feel like you’re throwing a bunch of stuff at them at once, they’ll become overwhelmed and frustrated.

Don’t confuse simplicity with stupidity. We’re not talking about dumbing things down for your man. Instead, we’re talking about helping him stay singularly focused so that he can be more productive and efficient. Once he’s accomplished that objective, he’ll be free to turn to the next one (and so on).

Your mind is much more adept at switching back and forth. He’ll learn to appreciate this about you, but you must learn to appreciate his focus, as well.

Men like to put up a tough front and act like things don’t phase them. But beneath the hard facade, there’s a much softer side – one that needs to be nurtured and supported. 

Men like to pursue, but they also like to be nurtured. Don’t mistake his desire to provide and protect with self-sufficiency. In order to carry out his roles, he requires someone to come alongside him – not behind or in front. He’s looking for an equal, yet different partner. By supporting him in the big and small moments, you show him that you’re up for the task.

Adding it All Up

No two men are the same, but if you understand the way men generally think and process through things, you’ll find it easier to get on the same page and forge healthy, long-term relationships that yield fruit for years to come.